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Last month I wrote about planning a wedding and my thoughts on the whole ordeal. I also promised to add more tips so this month I’ll try to provide more insight and perspective. I left off talking about the venue, this time around I’ll start off with the menu.

•  The Photographer. Some guys won’t care about the photographer or photographs at all, but most women want to preserve the historic moment forever. I’ve got mixed feelings on the photographer since I’m a photography enthusiast myself. I’m all for capturing memories and I can appreciate the skill involved in taking a well composed photo, but the photographer can cost an arm and a leg. If you haven’t budgeted much for a photographer then read PeteB’s note on photography.
• Gifts. Everyone I know who isn’t married can’t stand the idea of a gift registry. They tell me that if you don’t know what to buy someone then just give money instead. I disagree. I don’t know what everyone who invites me to a wedding owns or doesn’t own. A registry is a good way for people on both ends of the gift to save time. If you want to get money, then don’t register. If you want gifts then register somewhere. Honestly, this is one area where the retail marketplace could use some work. It would be nice if there was a unified registry that would take any UPC, not limiting you to the items in stock at your local department store.
• The Menu. If you’re doing a meal then pick a meal that you’d like, and offer an alternative for those who won’t. Buffet style meals are a good idea if you have the space.
• The Bar. Often times the families will have stronger feelings on the bar situation than the bride and groom. It might be a custom or tradition to have a host bar so be aware of this when you are booking your venue. You might not have the option to bring your own booze and tender.
• Tuxedos. If you have brochures on hand then take a look at them in advance of going out in public and trying to find something you and your bride will like. Classic styles are classic for a reason: they’re simple and they look good. Contemporary styles and materials can stray from the typical tuxedo look and fit. I wouldn’t shop around a whole lot for a cost savings here unless your time isn’t worth much.

That’s it for this round. Keep your blood pressure on the level with good friends and good times along the way and you’re wedding will be a breeze.